Conflict resolution

For the argument you are having right now.

There is a button for this. It does not try to fix your relationship at ten at night. It tries to get you both through the next twenty minutes without more damage.

De-escalation
First — is everyone safe?

Nothing else is shown until this is answered.

Yes, nobody is in dangerNo
This app cannot call anyone for you and cannot send help. It says so here.

In the moment

No winner, no score, no verdict. A tool that declared one would become another thing to fight about.

  1. Checks safety first

    Before anything else. If anyone is unsafe, nothing else matters and the app stops being a communication tool and starts being a list of people who can actually help.

  2. Suggests a pause

    If you are past the point where talking is doing any good.

  3. Takes each account separately

    And does not immediately show you the other version. Reading it while activated usually makes things worse.

  4. Finds the actual disputed issue

    Which is frequently not the one being argued about.

  5. Takes one thing at a time

    And explicitly parks the rest. Parked is not dropped — it is kept, in writing, for when you can both look at it.

The day after

When things have settled, each of you answers a few questions separately: did that feel resolved, did you feel heard, do you understand their side better, is anything still bothering you.

Your answers stay private, and they are what makes later guidance better rather than merely longer. If a shared takeaway would help, it needs you both to agree to the same wording — one person cannot publish a conclusion about a fight.

The months after

Debriefs and check-ins accumulate into the thing that actually changes outcomes: seeing that the last four arguments were the same argument, that they cluster on the same evenings, and that recovery now takes a day rather than a week.

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