How it works
Start alone. Add someone when you are ready.
OnBetterTerms is built so the first half is useful on its own. Nothing here needs the other person to be enthusiastic, or even involved.
The whole sequence
Three of these are optional, and the page says which. You can stop after any of them and still be using the product properly.
Create your private account
Yours alone. Nothing is connected to anyone, and nothing is shared until you decide it is. If you never invite a second person, the private half still works — notes, check-ins, your own guide, your own patterns.
Bring your history, if you have someOptional
Export your conversations from ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini or Grok and choose what comes with you. You see everything in the file before a word of it is written, and it arrives private.
There is no option to import into a space someone else can read.
Invite the other person, if you want toOptional
A link, a QR code, an email, or a short code you can read out. They have to accept before anything connects, and accepting never gives them access to anything you wrote before they joined.
Check in during the day
One number, one tap. Add a sentence if you feel like it, or say it out loud instead of typing. You pick the privacy level before it saves, and you can check in as many times a day as you want — a bad hour is data too.
Talk to your own guide
It has your history, so you are not re-explaining yourself every time. It helps you work out what you actually mean, separate what happened from what you think it meant, and find words you could really say out loud.
Rate a reply and the next one changes — shorter, blunter, more options, fewer questions.
Work through something togetherOptional
When you both choose to. A shared session is built only from what you have both marked shared, so your private notes are not in the room. It slows things down, takes one issue at a time, and does not pick a winner.
Say how it went
Afterwards, separately: did that feel resolved, did you feel heard, what do you want to remember. Short, private, and the thing that makes the next round of guidance better rather than just longer.
Notice what keeps happening
Over weeks the check-ins become something neither of you could reconstruct from memory: what keeps coming up, what is improving, which evenings are hard. Observations, hedged honestly, never predictions about your future.
What holds at every step
Shared, private, or never-disclosed. Chosen while you write, not in a settings page you visited once.
Somebody who accepts an invitation today cannot read what you wrote yesterday.
No agency, employer or service is contacted on your behalf. This is not an emergency service.
Export everything you can see, or delete the account and the key that makes its contents readable.
Step one takes about a minute.
Free, no card, and nobody is notified that you signed up.