For work

The conversation you have been putting off since March.

Most working relationships do not fail loudly. They accumulate small unsaid things until somebody leaves. This is for saying one of them, well, before it becomes the reason.

What people use it for

The conversation you keep postponing

A boundary that was never stated, credit that went elsewhere, a pattern in how a colleague talks to you in meetings. Work out what you want out of raising it before you raise it.

A disagreement where both of you describe it

If they are willing, you each write your account before either reads the other. What comes back summarises both positions and names where you already agree — which at work is usually more than either of you assumed.

Expectations nobody actually agreed

Half of workplace friction is two people holding different versions of an arrangement that was never made explicit. Getting the difference written down is often the entire fix.

What you will say, in the words you will use

Rehearse the difficult sentence somewhere private, so the first time you say it out loud is not in the room.

This is not an HR system.

OnBetterTerms accounts belong to people, not to employers. Nothing is reported to a manager, nothing is visible to a company, and there is no administrator anywhere who can read what you wrote.

It is also not a grievance process, an investigation tool, or a record for a disciplinary. If what is happening to you at work needs one of those, it needs a person with standing — not software.

Who can see what

Draft the difficult one.

Free, no card. Nobody is invited to anything unless you invite them.

For work disagreements — OnBetterTerms