For co-parents
The relationship is over. The conversations are not.
Co-parenting means an indefinite series of small negotiations with somebody you may have very little goodwill left for — and every one of them read by a person who is expecting the worst reading. This is for making those exchanges shorter, plainer and less expensive.
What it does here
Write what you mean while it is private, then decide what actually needs to be sent. Half of what makes these exchanges bad is the two extra sentences at the end.
When something goes wrong at a handover, you each write your version first and neither sees the other until both are in. Nobody is responding to a version of events they have already read, which is where the escalation usually starts.
A conversation about a missed pickup does not have to become a conversation about the last four years. Parked is recorded, not dismissed — it can be picked up later, deliberately.
Agreements become something with a name on it and a date, so the next disagreement is about the arrangement rather than about who said what.
You do not both have to be in it.
Plenty of people use this entirely on their own: working out what to send, keeping a private record of how things are actually going, and noticing the pattern in what keeps going wrong.
Nothing is visible to the other parent unless you invite them into a space and then deliberately share a specific thing. There is no notification that you are using it, and no way for anybody to look you up.
What it will not do
Nothing here is evidence, nothing is notarised, and it does not produce documents for a court. It is a communication tool.
No recommendations about custody, residence or contact. Those are decisions for the two of you, or for people with a professional and legal standing this does not have.
Where signs of control or abuse appear, joint guidance stops rather than continuing. Mediation assumes two people negotiating in good faith, and running it otherwise helps whichever of them is applying the pressure.
If either of you is unsafe, OnBetterTerms is not the right tool and says so rather than coaching through it. What happens when something is wrong.
Start with the next message you have to send.
Free, no card, and nothing is shared with anybody until you choose to share it.